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Post by madpastor1@gmail.com on Apr 2, 2009 17:07:16 GMT -5
Teens don't know it but relationships take a lot of time and effort and can easily be a distraction and to me many teens are distracted and involved in dating relationships that hurt rather than help
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Post by bluerose on Apr 2, 2009 21:22:43 GMT -5
i agree.i say dont rush it.you have PLENTY of time
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Post by 2988 on Apr 3, 2009 13:54:52 GMT -5
thats true also dating at a young age is a serious thing cause you find yourself so deep down into that relationship where as you go so crazy as a teen cant control yourself when they break your hurt thats a serious thing you cant handle, you think of all type of dirty things to try get back eg. you find yourself sleepin around tryin to get over that one person or make them jealouse
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Post by annonymus on Apr 3, 2009 18:55:33 GMT -5
I beg to differ...I am a teen and I am in a relationship but I feel I have a good sense of balance. The relationship so far has only benefited me...my g.p.a is higher..I am more focused and I am breaking out of my shyness. Plenty of time like when? When i go to college and have to kill my books..In my opinion now is the best time. Once the person is strong-willed and has a good head on their shoulders and knows what they want.
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Post by madpastor1@gmail.com on Apr 4, 2009 9:57:36 GMT -5
In response to Ms annonymus truthfully how many teens can say that their relationships have benifited them? Very litlle in my opinion. Most teenagers have a hard time making that balance and they neglect some of the most important aspects of their lives. But There may truthfully be some teens that can make that balance and understand what a helathy relationship is all about. All I'm saying is I feel personally that the Majority of teens should wait until they get to understand themsleves better and learn to appreciate themselves without having the need for a relationship to give them some self worth I will elaborate on that another time but I'm glad to hear t5hat your relationship has benifited you in those ways.
PS what about Spiritually has the relationship been a benefit there?
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Post by annonymous on Apr 4, 2009 14:47:48 GMT -5
Believe it or not it has...I feel much more connected to God moreso than ever. When i first started youth meetings i was too concerned about people watching me..but now i focus on God n block everyone out..including him. Worship and Word times are when i ignore him and link with God. I am more determined to pursue God's will for my life..n along the way i encourage him in God.
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Post by princessfiya on Apr 6, 2009 13:47:47 GMT -5
To annonymous im actually amazed. Dont get me wrong i dont question the truth behind the fact that you have benefited from your relationship im just more so impressed. and if thats the case then hats off to you. however my personal experience has led me to the opposite outcome. And in accordance with the madpastor and his accurate and timely stats it is true that the majority of teens cannot find that balance. I realized this when i became a statistic. I too was in a relationship that lasted for a year. I anticipated that my partner and i would not only grow knowing more about each other, but that our spiritual lives would blossom. in the end it went in the completely opposite direction. Not only did my grades slip but my spiritual life was near death. N literally it wasnt but when anything begins to toubleshoot or knock at the door of my spirituality i consider that death and i begin to fear for my life. Because of this relationship i realized that God was far from being my priority and my life revolved around my relationship( NOT GOOD!). To sum it up i learnt that relationships at such a vulnerable time in my life, from not knowing and loving myself to not being steady and strong spiritually hurt my life rather than help it. i wish i had the luxury of finding that balance as you did but i dont regret what happened because in that failure i learnt lessons that i never would have learnt while being in that relationship . Relationships are time consuming and isnt always the best thing to be in. But now im begining to love myself and know the real me and love God more.......and no relationship culd have taught me that!
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Post by annonymous on Apr 6, 2009 17:27:39 GMT -5
Wow...thats really interesting. Life is like an ocean the current may be strong..but once you're a strong swimmer you will make it to shore{with God's help ofcourse}..I am really happy for you:) I hope your life continues to bring you joy and you recieve all the blessings God has for you.
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Post by princessfiya on Apr 6, 2009 18:31:18 GMT -5
Thanx......Smile! Bless God tho
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Post by misscontroversial on Apr 7, 2009 13:53:26 GMT -5
I think Teens should wait......Statistics (researched and PROVEN data) shows that the earlier one starts dating the more likely it is for one to get involved in sexuall activity. Lets be real, you can only kiss for so long! At that teenage stage in life the body goes through many changes including your hormones starting to rise n etc.....
Lets go back to the purpose of dating....to find a companion for marraige( when many teenagers are asked what age they want to get married the median answer is 24 /25. So if your dating at 15 16 even 17, you plan on dating that person for what ten years before marrying them? and with in that eight or so years....yall just kissing? ok just was making sure
The thing is dating will always be there.....aint no rush....but the oppurtunity for education will not....you dont want to be 30 n 40 in college with three kids and a husband just because you fell in love young.....Focus on Loving God and accomplishing your goals first...shoots be selfish and love yourself! In the long run you will be happy and glad you did...trust!
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