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Post by madpastor1@gmail.com on Apr 6, 2009 10:12:33 GMT -5
I had a question from a parent latley they said they have an 18 year old daughter who wants to move out the house they know she can't afford to be on her own but she just won't listen. when she is at home she doesn't obey the rules what should they do let her move out or try and force her to stay? Because life isn't easy out there they would rather her stay. What are your thoughts express yourself
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Post by princessnicky on Apr 6, 2009 14:08:12 GMT -5
In my opinion i tink her parents should let her move out especially if she's not listening, n she will continue not to listen if she dnt get her way, i guess she jus has to experience living on her own for awhile n she'll c how hard it is, i had thoughts about moving out too but i no that i cant afford it rite now, n its gonna be really hard living by myself, i would have to do everything by myself, cook, clean,pay bills(if u dnt have a good enough job u shudnt even be tinkin about payin no bills) n get up on time fa work,i have a hard time doin that rite now, so i would say if they can convince her to stay then big ups to them, but believe me she will do everything in her power to get kick out jus to get out of there.
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Post by 2988 on Apr 6, 2009 16:54:40 GMT -5
i do agree let her move out and have a taste of the real world by time she taste how sour it is she will be rite back home cause the real world aint nuttin to play with even if you livin home you find it hard there to but you know you can depend on your parents, out there in the real world only for so long your boyfriend or friend would put up with you so the best thing for you to do is stay home
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Post by annonymous on Apr 6, 2009 17:34:19 GMT -5
To the 18 year old alot of times i wish i cud move out n i am much younger than you. But i realize that God places you with parents so that your life can be easier and u can have and achieve everything they didnt. Yeh..their rules are unfair and sucky but hey...their your parents so if u want to be blessed you must honor them and respect them to the best of your ability. Living on your own is no fairy tale you take on alot of stress when you do this especially when you rush..you should just find a good job and when you are capable n in a position to take care of yourself then do so..
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Post by ladyofintegrity on Apr 6, 2009 22:53:27 GMT -5
Ok, let's be real. It's always easier said that done. By that i mean, its easy to say let her move out but i know if it were my child i wouldn't want her to move out knowing that she will be struggling, and i won't be certain of her safety. What i would do is pose questions to cause her to begin thinkin' like the adult she believes she truly is. I would ask her for first and last (rent), how she plans to keep up with monthly rent after that, as well as grocery, gas, laundry, electricity, phone bills, cable, maintain her dressin' habits (cause ya kno girls like to dress) keep the hair fix, nails manicured, pay tithes and offering cause ya can't rob God. And while i'm posing these questions i'll be saying a silent prayer in my prayer closet that God would deliver her from the spirit of diobedience and rebellion, and believe Him to turn the situation around  ! |
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Post by misscontroversial on Apr 7, 2009 13:23:39 GMT -5
I say let her go.She's 18;she is an ADULT. So whats wrong with her wanting to act like one, yes it wont be easy but nothing in life really is, some persons mature more quickly than others and if things arent working at home then things just arent working. she obviously needs that space to make her own mistakes and nothing is wrong with that, who is to say that she wont make it or maybe she has friends that also want to get an apartment together, if she is so bent on leaving its obvious(well hopefully) she did some research and knows what she is doing. And like some one above said if she isnt tough enough to cut it she will realize that and move back home but for now.......let her live
Some parents need to realize that they cant protect their child from the real world forever, especially when that child does not want to be protected. The best you can do is train them up in the way they should go so when they are older they wont depart from it (proverbs).
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Post by kelly90210 on Apr 14, 2009 15:45:42 GMT -5
on this note....
i have been in that same position of wanting to move out at the age of 18, with a child. not to be biased but i feel that parents also need to examine themselves, it is not always the child who is in the wrong. at the age of 18 you are an adult an parents need to understand that you are growing up and although you are their child you are still an adult. some parents tend to treat their girls especially as if they are children and it is extremely unfair. in my case i dealt with unfair treatment of me and my brother ever since i can remember. we are both of age and we have the same rules, but if he breaks them there are no consequences. i feel that 18 year olds male or female should have less restrictions (reasonable though) and be allowed to find themselves without being labeled rude or rebellious.
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Post by princessnicky on Apr 15, 2009 22:46:12 GMT -5
i agree kelly but parents jus tend to have more protection on girls no matter wat, so i think to some point we have no control over that area but parents still need ta loosin up if not let go at the age of 18.
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