is sex a big thing

[firekid]

I think we as teens shud wait .Cause today teens tink that they are in love so we shud have sex but they dnt no wat love is they only sayn it to say it.Sex is only good 4 married people not teens [/color]

[misscontroversial]

number one....Some teens do know what love is ya know......... not every teen is naive as people make them to be......

"Sex is only good 4 married people not teens"

Its not only teens who are struggle with fornication......we have adults also who are having sex....... so number two lets stop making it sound as if its only teens, who are committing the big sin and admitt that its also wrong when adults are sexually active

Number three..... I also believe in waiting for sex (just want to make that clear)
However, i feel that society, including church folks only stick on teenage sex......like while the UNMARRIED adults kind of have a more freeway...making it seem as if its ok if you have passed a certain age and still aint married.......I feel if there was more adults setting abstinence examples and not just preaching it.....Teens abstinence will be stronger

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thats hot I agree

[2988]

sex is great am not gonna come on here and pretty up anything because people is tell the teens dont have sex and they still is do it me as example i went and had sex befor marriage and end up with a baby it aint easy trust me only if i did listen,but i thought i was in love but that was just stupidity. if you go and be hard headed like me wrap it up but the best thing to do is wait until you get married.

[pastorh]

I also agree........... very nice

[kingskid242]

I totally agree!! Because i kno a person rite na very near and dear to me that thought she was in love and rite now is stuck with 7 kids her and the guy jus broke up and she dnt have a job!!!! u think the guy look back!!! so my five cents is jus wait!!!! weather old or young!! cause ya still have dudes who is like 54 tryna talk to these lil gals and because some they arnt use to that type of attention so they fall!!! But still as christians we must jus be a brother or sister and help them because no1 is perfect we all make mistakes!!! i kno im not perfect!! but my Daddy died for my sins inspite of!!!!

[bluerose]

i agree completely......especially about the young girls and older men thing.....i ride the bus in Nassau....and i notice some of the young high school girls giving these old bus drivers their number n thing.....and i said if only these young ladies knew their worth....... it has so much to do with ladies just not settling!

[thetruth]

I dont know why ths is such a hot topic all around the place. It helps to tell kids not to sleep around but they ga do what they wan do anyhow. Me i think as long as we decide we ga be safe en enobody ga get hurt. right

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Wrong.... Even in safety there is danger... where the danger rest in disobedience to Gods word... that says sex should be saved for the context of marriage. Thats the problem teenas and young adults and even adults think the only thing to be concerend about when having sex is geting pregnant or a disease thats a consequence... but the reality is sin brings eternal death obedience to Gods word is what matters

[princessfiya]

Im gonna totally agree with the mad pastor, and he sets the stage and the whole truth about sex. People are terribly miss guided and highly uneducated when they begin to comprimise the word of God. So it is no longer strictly abstinence but it is now "wrap it up" or be safe, or once you use condoms you can save yourself from disasters. however we need to begin to pattern our lives in the way God desires for us to live. Who are we or what justifies us to make changes to the unchangeable laws of God. Sex is designed for marriage and marriage only! I think by now we all know that when humans dabble or put their hands in the work of God, their not only telling God that he is not capable of making the right decisions for the human race on his own, but we are saying that he needs our assistance in his the things he does..... indirectly. Everything God says and does is for a reason. And we serve such an awesome and faithful God that he not only instructs us to not do certain things but he allows the consequences to become known and visible if we decide to go against the laws he set. People lets not begin to become waysided christians or sometimey in the sense that we begin to interfere with the will of God. Not only teens but people around the world have proven that sex outside of marriage leaves not only an indelible imprint on the psyche but changes peoples lives forever. Remember God will never put restrictions to the things that are good for his children, and he will never do things to make life seem like a prison. As for me i think I'll stick with the master plan since God has always proved himself to be faithful and just in everything he outlines. Think about it!

[kimeko8]

Great advice Princess!...I just want to add a personal testimony and I'm kinda hesitating right now but I am thinking on someone who might actually benefit from what I am about to say...

...well I was 19 and loving the Lord and had the mentality that nothing and nobody could stand in my way when it came to my relationship with God. I had the "no sex until marriage" mindset, until I met a guy, forgot about God and fell in love with him had sex with him and a few months later he broke up with me (that was the first set back). So in order to get him out of my system I started dating again going from one guy to the next all the while having sex with each one of them. Finally I got him out of my system I feel in love with another guy and we broke up and it left me devastated and so I went back to sleeping with different guys, I even slept with a guy I didn't even know. I did all of this because I had lost my self, I had depended on a man to make me happy. Out of all the guys I've slept with I only loved two, I was unhappy with my actions and depressed because I left God so that I can be like everyone else (having sex).

But ya know what even though I was doing garbage and treating my body terribly God was still there, like princess say He is faithful. I was at a breaking point when I cried out to God for mercy and He pulled me up out of the mud that I was sinking in and placed me on a firm foundation and I am so grateful to Him for not leaving me, I could have ended up with children with diseases but God never took His hand off me.

How am I dealing now? well it is a process and having sex causes you to become one, so I was becoming one with those guys and I had to learn how to be whole in God. I also ended up with a mind that 'all men were dogs' and I didn't trust them but God's Spirit is at work in me and has caused me to change the way I think. Right now I am taking it slow when it comes to relationship with the opposite sex. I just want to enjoy my single life, oh and by the way God has given me back my virginity! Ain't that grand? lol thank You Lord!

My advice is to remain a virgin until marriage. It's too expensive to give ur bodies to people who don't know your worth. Wait...!

[ladyofintegrity]

Excellent, princessfiya! It's always better to do things God's way . And although we may not fully understand why he puts restrictions on certain things, in the long run we'll be thankful He did. Typical of a good dad, sometimes he tells ya "no", sometimes he tells ya "wait" but when ya look back on ya life ya realize he restrained ya from certain things, not because he wanted to make ya life miserable, but simply because he loves you and wanted to sheild you from the dangers that would lie ahead, had you chose to do the forbidden thing. And it's the same way with our "Daddy", He's always lookin' out for us !

[princessfiya]

Well said lady of integrity i second that motion!!!!!!!!!!! can someone say people of God speaking out and in action lol lol! N kimeko8 i respect u so much for being so honest and opening up to share your personal testimony so that others are uplifted and aware. I just bless God for that. Sex is a real issue guys and we just wan yall to no the truth behind this matter....God loves you and we do too.....kimeko8 n ladyofintegrity remain encouraged n stead fast in the lord !!!

[realjazz]

How can you imply that teenagers don't know about love? Some people can receive a spirit of discernment at a very young age. Why dumb-down teenagers as if they are stupid individuals. Then you wonder why the teenagers of the Bahamas are the way they are today. Yes some are ignorant, there are ignorant adults as well, but to group all teenagers as ignorant is very unreasonable. Years ago female children were prepared to be housewives and married in their teen years and were able to raise responsible families. However today, most are not prepared for that. They have a "I'm a kid" mindset and that's the types of decisions they make. But what about the ones Today that are prepared for married life? The comments here seem to regard all teens, however there are married teen so let's not disregard them. Should they wait until they are twenty to engage in sexual activity as well? If you say yes, you have a double standard.

Now on to the topic. Today people have no total regard for married life and family, however that does not justify a reason to have sex out of marriage. I believe God wanted two people to come together (my secular and religious beliefs stand at male & female) to deal with sexual relations due to consequences( - and +) that may come about.

Who wants to raise children alone? If you can afford it you would say "I would", but what about when you want alone time or time with friends? What if you want your child to learn new skills, abilities and morals that you may not have yourself? I mean I guess that's what aunts and uncles are for but responsibilty should be left to the two that created the being.

Sexual diseases are just rampant in this day and age... need I say more?

If you are emotionally attatched to the person you are having sex with splitting up can be emotionally disctructive. Yes it happens in marriages but being single does not make it better. Trust me, I have stalked a few ex's back in the day.

But what if you like sex and have gone through all of the precautions to avoid negative consequences and they have worked thus far? You use contraceptives, your'e not emotionally attatched to your partner and know that they are clean and you know their sexual partners. What if you use sex as some sort of "high"? How then is that wrong... without saying "the Bible says". Today you find that more and more people are doing just that. So how do we combat this instance where people are more likely than not, safe, but are still fornicating nonetheless?